Blaming is a popular pastime. We like to blame our parents, our partners, the weather. We like to blame our boss, our co-workers, our job. We like to blame our “lack of time”, our financial status, our bodies. We REALLY like to blame the rich and the government!!
The question is, “how is that working for you?”
We blame because we think that life happens “outside” ourselves. We blame because we have not known how powerful we truly are. We blame because we have not known any better.
Blaming keeps us powerless. Blaming gives the “other” all the power. Blaming feels yucky.
Who do you like to blame for your situation? Who are you giving your personal power to? Where are you not standing up to the plate for yourself and your life?
It is an inside job.
I am learning that more and more each day.
Start to notice when and who and what you are blaming. Notice how that makes you feel. Notice where you are not taking responsibility. Maybe you cannot even see it from the point of view you are taking. You might need a wise friend or teacher to help you see your own blind spot.
As we learn to drop the blame and truly find our own part in the situation, where WE are invited to shift and deepen, life becomes much lighter.
Our most difficult situations and the most difficult people in our lives are our greatest teachers……….
Take a closer look and see where you can begin to drop the blame and see what YOUR part is. It is a path to greater freedom.
Much love, melaniej
“Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.” Rilke