I have been working with the Byron Katie “The Work” material for several years. I would suggest that you check her out at http://www.thework.com/index.php.
Katie (yes, she typically is called her last name) developed this work at a time of tremendous transformation in her own life. She realized that she was believing her thoughts and that her thoughts were making her MISERABLE!! She realized that as she began to question them that there were many other ways of looking at each thought. That there were greater truths underneath these thoughts that gradually led her into a life of peace and becoming the amazing teacher she now is.
Our thoughts are colored by our past experiences. If we were abandoned by our father at an early age, we will have a deep fear that important men will leave us. If we were ridiculed or shamed in our childhood we may choose to keep our distance from people. If we experienced a traumatic event, we will have difficulty trusting, always waiting for the shoe to drop…..
Of course, we have all experienced some difficulty. What challenges your friend may not seem like a big deal and vice versa.
The point here is to begin to discover what DOES trigger you. What thoughts DO put you off center. And then ask Katie’s great question, “Is this even true?” “Is it absolutely true?” What story are you telling yourself? Is the story being spun out of your fear place? If it is, then the thoughts are going to make you miserable.
Stop it. Click here to get the full meaning of these two words:)
Whenever you have a thought that takes you off center, ask yourself “Is this true? Is this absolutely true?” What else could be going on here? Watch the story that your mind wants to spin and if it takes you into pain, well then, as Bob Newhardt says so eloquently, “Stop it!”
Have fun keeping an eye on yourself:) Happy spring! m
P.S. I have one more spot in my 7 month Mentorship and a few spots in my 7 week tele-seminar taking a personal journey through the Chakras