What Else Is Possible Here?

It is easy to get stuck in a thought “loop”.  You know what I mean.  You run the same story over and over and over even though it does not make you feel good and it may not even be true.

You may do this for years.

When we have something traumatic or deeply unsettling occur, our emotions can be very strong and raw.  It is difficult to get to a better feeling place or a more intelligent (and perhaps more honest) perspective until we have let some of this emotion release some of its “charge”.

Don’t skip this part.

Traditionally we have done one of two things:

1.  React and start to blame and attack the person or situation in front of us.

2.  Distract ourselves and stuff the uncomfortable feelings DOWN (and in).

Sound familiar?  Either choice is a lose/lose proposition.

A new way to begin to practice:

1.  Feel the feeling.
2. Get in touch with what it is.
3.  Name it.
4.  Observe and feel it fully
5. Trust that it is like a wave and it will come up, peak and flow away
6. Realize that you do NOT want the energy of these unexpressed emotions stuck in your physical body!

(NOTE:  If you have been pushing down your feelings for a very long time, the initial “waves” that come up may be small and build to larger ones and then decrease in size and duration or begin large and over time become smaller and smaller as you release more of the charge.  If you feel you need support for this process, ask for it.)

Once the emotion has begun to lose some of its charge, you will be able to think about it more clearly.  Not when you are in the midst of it.

Now that you are feeling calmer you:

1. Ask yourself some questions
2. How can I view this situation differently?
3. What part am I responsible for?
4. What could be there be a hidden pearl for me?
5. Is there a growth opportunity for me here?

Then LISTEN to see what the questions reveal to you.  The answers may come immediately or over the next few hours, days, weeks, months or years……….

That’s it!

Let me know what you discover about your situation once you open to new possibilities………much love, melaniej