A heavy topic for such a lovely day!!!
I sat down not having anything particular in mind to blog on today. I had a deck of Doreen Virtue’s (yes, that is her real name:) oracle cards on my deck so drew one for inspiration.
I pulled out the card ‘Maat” which is about fairness. “This situation will be handled in a fair and just manner.
When I looked at various meanings of this card, one said “Release guilt and shame as these emotions can attract a punishing attack”
Guilt and Shame. 2 very painful emotions. We do not even like to think about those things that we feel shame around. We try to bury them deeply.
I have a friend who is a therapist. She went to a conference a few years ago around treating “shame”. What was said in the training was that shame is such an uncomfortable feeling that it will be the very last one that a person is willing to pull up and look at.
That is understandable but that which we do not look at continues to rule us from its hidden place deep within.
What is a first step you can take? Maybe knowing that holding this in is blocking other goodness from your life can give you the courage to begin the journey. Start small if necessary. Spend a few minutes each day journaling about the situation. Ask yourself questions about why you feel so ashamed about this situation or these actions. Can you find compassion for yourself? Can you acknowledge that you did the best with what you had at the time? If you know EFT or another emotional clearing technique, use it to lessen the emotional charge. Just begin to unravel the emotions around the story. Breathe deeply if you get uncomfortable. Know that it is OK to feel uncomfortable. Remember that emotions are like waves. They will just roll up and roll out if you continue to breathe and allow them to.
You do not have to unravel it all in one day. If it is something very difficult you may need support to find yourself through it. This could be with a close friend or perhaps you will need professional assistance.
If you have a daily practice, you can begin the exploration and the releasing here.
I sometimes hear people say, “I don’t want to think about that. That happened a long time ago.” But what happened a long time ago still impacts us today unless we have looked at it in the face and cleared the emotional charge surrounding it.
Let me know your thoughts and questions………blessings and love to us all, melaniej
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