How much can you accept where you are at in any given moment? Do you want to push away the current feeling or can you surrender and accept your present moment?
How well can you accept another where they are at? Do you immediately want to jump in and fix them or tell them that it will be ok, things will turn out fine?
In both cases, we are turning our backs on where we are and where the other person is at in the present moment. When we turn our backs on ourselves, through distraction of any kind, you will notice that what you have pushed away will come in LOUDER when you have some quiet time. OR you will just keep yourself super busy and exhausted to try to keep it at bay.
In the situation with other people, we do this because we are uncomfortable with our OWN feelings (we have been dodging ourselves from feeling what just needs to move through us) so we certainly do not want to be around other people’s painful feelings!
You know what it feels like when someone trys to sugar coat your feelings. They try to justify them or say it will work our or it really is the other person’s issue……..etc. It doesn’t feel good. It feels “yucky”. We just want to be heard. We don’t want to be fixed. We just need this feeling to come up and move through………when someone trys to “soothe” you, often it just goes underground again. Part of it may release but not the total release you were looking for and so it does not feel complete.
Part of us DOES want someone to say “oh, it is ok, it was not your fault, etc” but that is the part that doeesn’t want to really go into the feeling directly. So we can side step it once again.
I wrote about riding our feelings like a wave just a couple weeks ago. Re-read that blog to help you understand more of this whole process.
I write so much about emotions because we are very emotional beings and have had very little idea of what to do with them! I am less and less afraid of my emotions……..even the really difficult ones, because I understand the process. I do not always even have to know where the emotion is coming from, I just know that I need to allow it to flow through.
Can you imagine all the blocked emotions we have from our whole life time? And so when we get triggered, the tears or anger or shame we feel is linked to ALL of the unexpressed emotions from our life time!!! Large pools of blocked energy. Every time we release some strong emotion, there is less toxic energy to create cancer, arthritis, MS etc.
I teach you how to feel safe in feeling, identifying and working with your most difficult emotions. It is true, we must walk through the fire to get to the other side. Fire does transform us but it need not destroy us.
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This week practice meeting yourself where you are at. Give yourself some self love and nurturing and compassion. Practice meeting others where they are at without criticism or judgement. The more we can do that the more our hearts can open to ourselves and to each other. From an open heart, soft unconditional love flows and that is a powerful healing energy.
I am in love with this moment. I don’t know where I will be in the next moment but this moment certainly feels good.
Heart love to each of you:) Blessings, melaniej
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