When I was very young, there was a show on t.v. called “The Romper Room”.  I loved it.  This was before Mr. Rogers and Sesame Street.  The part I remember most about it was the segment on it called, “The Do Bee or the Don’t Bee”.

The message was clear.  You did not want to be a “Don’t Bee”  you wanted to be a “Do Bee.

Children were able to write in and one day I received a response back from the teacher in the show.  I was so thrilled!!!   I wanted to be a “Do Bee”!!

I spent  a great deal of time being a “Do Bee”.  It’s great to be around “Do Bees”.  They will DO for you!!!  It was a great way to try and fill my cup of being loved or appreciated.

But “Do Bees” get tired after a while.  And they get resentful.  I did.  I didn’t want to do it all for everyone anymore.  I didn’t want to please everyone.

And that was a good thing.  Sometimes the best thing that we can do for ourselves (and ultimately it is a gift for others) is to be a “Don’t Bee”.

Where are you buzzing around being a “Do Bee” when you do not want to be anymore?  Is it time to put on your “Don’t Bee” bonnet??

It is a simple concept but not so easy to carry out.  It does not feel good to disappoint other people.  We teach people how to treat us and if we have been “doing” for them of a long time, they will not like it when we stop.

We can carry a lot of fear that if we stop “doing” we will no longer be loved.  It is very common to carry the belief that “i am valuable and lovable because I do”.  If I stop doing, who will I be?  Who will love me?

Let yourself look around your life and see where you are being too much of a “Do Bee.”  You will know it because you will feel resentful!

That is all.  I want to go and be a “Don’t Bee” the rest of the night:)

Love to you all!  melaniej